I want to move.
My husband and I have rented and lived in small spaces since our marriage five years ago. It’s been a wonderful stage of life and I’ve learned so much from it. But at the same time, I begin to long for more permanence. For more space. For not just a room of my own, but a house.
It’s hard to get to that point, these days. My husband and I are just two of many, many 20 and 30-somethings trying to get our feet under us. Trying to finish degrees; pay off massive student loans; find fulfilling, full-time work; save a little to buy a house and settle down.
Is that too much to ask?
To be honest, it’s hard not to feel a little bitter.
But bitterness is not the flavour I want my life to be. On this blog and in my life I want my message to be joy, contentment, living abundantly every day, no matter the circumstances. I want to bloom where I’m planted, and I want you to, too!
A few weeks ago I shared this quote by Theodore Roosevelt with my email subscribers: “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
I have no idea when we’ll have a house of our own, but in the meantime I can make a home. I can make a home for my family with what I have, where I am.
Want to join me in learning to be a better homemaker while you’re waiting for a better home? I have 6 suggestions for you today!
Like you would with any job, get training and continue your education as a homemaker. Find and read books that will equip you in your role as a homemaker and make you better at your job. Unexpectedly, I’m reading now more than ever (even though I’m a mom!), and I’m making it a point to include self-enrichment books on my reading list. I recently finished The House That Cleans Itself. It’s a great book for re-thinking the way you organize and clean your space.
2. Work on your routines
You can take your routines with you wherever you live, so implement some good ones while you wait for a better home! Think about what routines will make you more productive, help you focus on your priorities, and run a home more smoothly. I established morning and evening routines a few years ago, and I adjust them as needed to fit our current season. You could also think about what weekly routines you’d like to implement as a family, or set a personal devotions/Bible reading routine for yourself.
For help with making over your morning routine, here’s an online course to explore.
3. Work on your systems
Try different meal planning techniques, organize your recipe collection, and figure out what housework system you like. I’ve been using my “menu mapping” system for quite some time, but in the next couple of months I’d like to experiment with seasonal menu planning, where you plan a month’s worth of meals and then repeat them for the season. For housework, I have a day of the week for each major task, and over time I’ve figured out what tools and cleaners I like to use. I still need to get a good system down for dealing with mail and paper!
4. Learn how to deal with clutter
If you know how to handle the whole clutter issue, you will be a better homemaker! Work through your current living space, project by project, and lighten the load to prepare for your future move. My book breaks your home down into 30 different areas and will walk you through each one to help you simplify. And after your initial purge? Make sure you know how to keep returning clutter at bay!
5. Round out your homemaking skills
I know I’ll have more work to do when I have a full-fledged house and I’m a homeowner. So when I find a little spare time now, I fill it with learning how to be a better cook, experimenting with different recipes and methods of preparation, or trying my hand at freezer cooking. For you, it might be learning how to sew, doing repairs and DIY projects, practicing hospitality, working on budgeting, or any number of things!
6. Work on your heart issues
Don’t get so caught up in dreaming of a better home that you ignore the blessings that are right in front of you. Whatever good things you have are a gift from God. Find contentment in where you are and what you have, and pour out thanks. A better home won’t solve all your problems, and is sure to bring a few of its own! I ask God every day for a house, but I know that I still have a lot to learn while I wait.
Finding Balance in Your Home
I’m really excited about the 2016 Homemaking Ministries Online Conference, which will be live in just a couple of weeks! This year’s theme is balance, and I can’t think of a better topic for women who are trying to flourish as homemakers! I’ll be speaking on simplifying and decluttering your home. It’s actually my first time being on video for anything blog related! I’m a bit nervous, yes, but I can’t wait to connect with you all in this way!