Margin. We all need it, but we’re too busy to slow down and carve it out. Here are two methods for creating margin in your life so you can breathe again.
But staring at a new calendar page this month has me thinking about my schedule. I’d like that to be simple, too. Wouldn’t you?
The thing your busy life needs
When someone asks you how you’re doing, do you say “busy”?
Are you always rushed, stressed, frazzled, and feel that there’s never enough time to get where you need to be and do what you need to do?
I wonder if your problem is that you don’t have enough margin in your life. That’s certainly been my experience in the past.
So what exactly is margin?
Margin is unscheduled time that you can use in whatever way refreshes you or helps you get back on track with life.
Margin is your breathing room.
It’s your schedule’s “emergency fund” for when you’re running late or somebody throws up or you just need to put your feet up for a minute.
Margin is your moment to sip a cup of tea and enjoy an orange white-chocolate chip scone.
It’s your opportunity to grab 20 minutes and simplify something.
Best of all perhaps, margin is the place where you can reflect on the text of your life. Everyone needs that–a space to pencil in your thoughts and ponder the words before rushing to turn the next page.
Two Approaches to Building Margin
Think about this: Even though the words of a book make up the meat of the story, without the white borders around them those words would be difficult to read. Our lives are the words and text, but we need that boring white space around our lives to keep us sane and focused.
Prose pieces (like novels and nonfiction) have very different margins than poetry selections do. In prose, the size of the margins are predetermined. Where you end one line and begin another is determined by how large you set the margins to be.
In poetry, the writer chooses where to turn each line and the margins take shape around the poem as you go.
The margins of poetry and prose provide excellent models for creating more border space in your own life.
When you’re trying to create more margin in your life, you might prefer the prose model, or you might find that the poetry model is a better fit. Here’s how each of them work:
1. The prose approach to creating a simpler schedule
In the prose approach, you set your margins first, and fit the rest of your life inside them.
Think about what gives you margin. What gives you room to breathe so that the rest of your life doesn’t feel so frazzled? Considering your margins could go something like this:
I want margin in my mornings so I can _____________ (have a morning routine, enjoy my coffee, do my devotions, get to work on time, etc.)
I want margin in the evenings so I can _____________ (read a book, take a bath, tidy the house, do other fun evening activities)
I want margin between each scheduled activity so I can _____________ (not be late to things, fix a snack, go over on time if I need to)
I want margin on the weekends so I can _____________ (simplify something, take a walk, be spontaneous)
I want margin over the holidays so I can _____________ (finish preparations without feeling stressed, sit and talk with relatives)
Decide what you want your margins to be. And then, don’t plan anything into your schedule that will crowd those margins out.
2. The poetry approach to creating a simpler schedule
In the poetry approach you work from the inside out. You set your schedule first, but you do it thoughtfully and with precision so that the text inside is meaningful, and margins grow naturally around it.
Think about what makes your schedule meaningful. Decide which things in your schedule are the most important. It could be…
- Going on dates with my husband is really important.
- Taking my kids to this sport they love.
- Going to Bible study.
- Building my online business.
- Volunteering at this ministry.
When you’ve decided what those priorities are, think carefully before building anything else into your schedule.
10 Practical Ways to Create More Margin in Your Life
Whether you build margin from the outside in (prose) or the inside out (poetry) here are some practical ways to achieve that white space:
1. Leave plenty of buffer between activities.
I learned this lesson while traveling. It’s tempting to pack in as many things as possible when you’re visiting another place, but you’ll end up exhausted and crabby. Plan downtime into your day beforehand (the prose approach) or just pick a few of the locale’s highlights and focus on those (the poetry approach). The same concept applies to your weekly activities around your hometown!
2. Wake up earlier.
Whether it’s an hour earlier or just 20 minutes, you’ve given yourself time to enjoy simple pleasures like a leisurely cup of coffee, time to read your Bible, a chance to reply to emails, make a bigger breakfast, or get to work on time instead of late.
3. Don’t overbook yourself.
My favourite time management book has lots of wisdom on creating a more intuitive schedule in the 24 hours allotted to you each day.
4. Go grocery shopping just twice per month.
Instead of going every week (or every time you need an ingredient), save time and gas by planning your menus around a two-week rhythm. Here’s the simple meal planning system I like to use.
5. Say “no” to things you don’t want to do.
Don’t guilt yourself into saying “yes” to things you’re not gifted at or don’t have time for. (Unless you really have to do them, like jury duty!)
6. Do the dishes and tidy the house before bed.
I think these are some of the signs that you’ve become a responsible adult! It’s wonderful to wake up with a clean slate, instead of feeling like you need to play catch up from the day before.
7. Avoid duplicates in your schedule.
Just because Bible study is on your priorities list doesn’t mean you should do two of them. You also don’t need to take your kids to three sports or volunteer at every ministry that asks for your time.
8. Respond to emails right away.
As a general rule of thumb, only open and read an email when you know you’ll have time to respond to it right then and there. Otherwise, you’ll end up reading it again and wasting time. If your email inbox is a mess right now, here are some tips for taming the beast.
9. Cook in bulk.
When you can, make a big batch of soup or beans and rice, or bake extra muffins. Freeze the extras for busy days. Here are some make-ahead breakfast freezer ideas that are easy to prep in bulk.
10. Cancel activities that are stressing you out or that aren’t necessary for you to thrive.
When you simplified your wardrobe, you didn’t keep a piece “just because” it fit or “just because” other people had one. Similarly, if an activity isn’t right for you in your current circumstances, drop it. Probe the reason, and don’t keep it “just because.”
Maintain that hard-achieved margin!
Unfortunately, the busyness WILL creep back in and your margins will shrink. With any area of your life that you simplify, there is some maintenance required. Reevaluate your schedule as the seasons of the year and your life change. Start at the beginning of poetry or prose and fine-tune your lists as necessary.
What’s my approach? I find that the prose method is the best fit for me!
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